Being 'real'

     This 1st topic is about a growing problem in society today. It is a misunderstanding of the difference of being 'honest/forthright' etc and bein...'real'.
I feel as though this world is growing into a place where its tasteful to be inconsiderate of peoples feelings and is shown in any actions/re-actions people take.

example:a person you know does something that vexes you. Then in retaliation you not only cuss them out (swearing included sometimes if not all the time), but you then go on to spread character damaging rumours about the episode tainting their reputation amongst peers etc... -quite commonplace-

     Now, whether you are 'religious' or not we all know that those actions are not the right way to go about things. People are displaying vindictive actions and passing themselves off as bein real in which they view as a means of saying what they want and doing what they want in order to exact their revenge, as people are now starting to accept this misconception of real as a form of upright behaviour.
     I have no idea why people 'need' to swear or partake in said actions but if you think that it is some way of releasing urself from your fraudulent feeling of indignation then you are severely mistaken.

     I recently had a similar issue raised when someone attempted to act out this 'new' meaning of real in my direction. Obviously the comments made were quite inappropriate and very rude while the excuse for the words told to me were that the person was being real and honest... i did remonstrate with the person in order to deduce the reasons behind their issue and that i found the comments to be dis-heartening etc.
     Gratefully the person understood that the comments were harmful and apologized but its sad to think that these situations crop up in the first place. Just how have we allowed this type of autocratic behaviour to slip into our speech and/or thought patterns?

     I do pray that people will try to act in a civilised manner whether they have been crossed or let down as we all fall short of expectations at some time in life, then in our own case want understanding and leniency to fall upon our feet...as for now.. all i know is i won't be partaking in any real actions myself as in this respect and meaning... in saying this i aim to remain as un-real as possible.